Drunk, rape, gang sex… 13 year olds?

The latest news story going around about the ‘Roast Busters’, a group (though the picture only shows two men) who have apparently been going around raping 13 year olds and bragging about it online. It is horrifying to think this could even happen, and that it has been going on for years. There is a point beyond the alleged rape that people seem to be missing.

Why on earth are 13 year old girls, at a party, drunk to the point of blacking out….?

I know when I was 13 I was writing in my diary, staying up late with my friends at sleep overs giggling about who had a crush on who and if anyone had kissed a boy. I did not even think about parties and drinking until I was 15 and even then it was something that I was not allowed to just go out and do. I mean, I get having a social life. I get that kids go out and that perhaps I was different to be innocent for so long. But to me, that just seems wrong. Innocence should not be something that is surprising to find in a 13 year old. 

While it is horrible that these girls had to go through loosing their virginity at 13 and yes those boys are horrible human beings, the blame does not lie completely with them. Do these girls not have parents, or anyone looking out for them for that matter? 

A girl being quoted saying gang sex is normal in West Auckland, but mainly with 13-15 year olds. That is sick. It is horrific and to me. There are so many huge issues around this news story that people seem to be missing. 

Because at the end of the day, why on earth are 13 year old girls allowed to be getting drunk at parties and not at home with their parents? Or even at a party with people so much older than them for that matter. It is astonishing. And I just can not get over that fact alone. 


The play

I am a person who doesn’t like to give much away. I like to surprise and I find it hard to just blurt out things about who I am. I’m a listener, I am also a ‘fill blank space with useless words’ I can even pick just about any topic and get someone to babble on about it. If I want to talk that is. But I only like to give away what I want people to see or know. This has served me well throughout my teen years limiting teasing and rumors. This is not quite so great as a ‘nearly an adult’ adult. It limits my connection with people. I am getting better though. 

The other day me and my boyfriend of nearly two years were watching TV as I moaned about my foot I couldn’t walk on. There was nothing good on TV, except for Disney Channel, which there is almost always something entertaining on. So Disney Channel it was. Phineas and Ferb came on. I burst into song. I get really into theme songs, like really into theme songs. My boyfriend turned around and stared at me in horror. I kept singing. The look on his face was like no other I had ever seen, it was a cross between admiration, horror, distaste and surprise coated with a tasty bit of confusion. 

“That was something I did NOT know about you!” 

“Well, yea, why wouldn’t I know the Phineas and Ferb theme song?” 

He didn’t get it. It is the number one most catchy song I have ever heard on TV. I have a little brother who loved the show and in my final years of being at home it played over and over and OVER after school. There was little else to watch. So yes. I know the Phineas and Ferb theme song. Now my boyfriend knows I know it. 

It is nice to still have things we don’t know about each other after two years. It leaves me thinking ‘do we ever really completely know each other’? I hope not. I like surprising people, learning new things and burst out with something totally off the wall. 

I think that’s how I’m going to play life, perhaps I wont burst into random song around people who have yet to fall madly in love with me… but I do think the little surprises are just what makes me me. 

It’s what makes us all a little quirky and a whole lot of random.